Romance For Every World Interview

I did NOT just do that.
In that instant between turning the steering wheel and hearing the blast of horn from the guy in your blind spot. Well. Only once. Actually, there are random moments throughout the day and night. I wish I knew, really.
It depends. If my publisher wants a “friends-to-lovers” book, then I craft a rough – very, very rough – plan first. Then, I figure out what kind of people might get into the situation I’ve created and – most importantly – WHY they might get into it. I use astrology sometimes too, to figure out the inner workings of my characters. If it’s a book I’m starting from scratch, it’s almost completely characters. I’ll get a glimpse of a quirk, say a woman who draws concentric circles on her hand while she’s on the phone. Something very small. And I go from there.
Books by two authors who are also have new releases this month: Robin Bielman (Wild About Her Wingman) and Jennifer Shirk (Fiance By Fate). I just finished First Grave on the Right by Darynda Jones and have a paperback of Fast Women by Jennifer Crusie.
I always thought it would be the epitome of coolness and success to be an author. I’d always written in the usual varied forms, but at one point, I simply had to try to write a Whole Book. Start to finish. It was incredibly uncool and a complete non-success (see how I did that?) but I considered it a huge accomplishment and determined to do it again and again until I arrived at the successful coolness I crave. Looks like I’ll be writing for a long time to come!
A family saga that has yet to see the light of day. It might be best that way, but that’s the book that made me really feel like an author, all full of angst, suffering, ancient history, themes, hope, etc. Yeah, probably best it stays under the bed.
You know, I think it’s Sabrina Becker from Fake Fiance, Real Revenge. She’s a nurse-midwife and there was a period of time when I considered that career path. But I had three babies instead, all totally natural births. I was my own midwife, you could say!
Are You a Highly Confident Person?
- At April 21, 2014
- By Roxanne Snopek
- In Life, Roxanne Writes On
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Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself, why should anyone else put their faith in you? To walk with swagger and improve your self-confidence, watch out for these fifteen things highly confident people don’t do. Now, I’ve come a long way, baby, but this shines light on several (okay, many)

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troublesome areas for me. How about you?
- They don’t make excuses.
Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work; they were late. They don’t excuse their short-comings with excuses like “I don’t have the time” or “I’m just not good enough”; they make the time and they keep on improving until they are good enough.
- They don’t avoid doing the scary thing.
Highly confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know that the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things that they need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.
- They don’t live in a bubble of comfort.
Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone, because they know this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort, because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.
- They don’t put things off until next week.
Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the “right time” or the “right circumstances”, because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They take action here, now, today – because that’s where progress happens.
- They don’t obsess over the opinions of others.
Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they do care about the well-being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world, they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are, and they don’t concern themselves with the rest.
- They don’t judge people.
Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary, self-inflicted drama. They don’t feel the need to insult friends behind their backs, participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they feel no need to look down on other people.
- They don’t let lack of resources stop them.
Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have, no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks, but rather focus on finding a solution.
- They don’t make comparisons.
Highly confident people know that they are not competing with any other person. They compete with no other individual except the person they were yesterday. They know that every person is living a story so unique that drawing comparisons would be an absurd and simplistic exercise in futility.
- They don’t find joy in people-pleasing.
Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they meet. They are aware that not all people get along, and that’s just how life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the quantity of them.
- They don’t need constant reassurance.
Highly confident people aren’t in need of hand-holding. They know that life isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t control every event in their life, they focus on their power to react in a positive way that moves them forward.
- They don’t avoid life’s inconvenient truths.
Highly confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a way of multiplying as the days, weeks and months go by. They would rather have an uncomfortable conversation with their partner today than sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug, putting trust at risk.
- They don’t quit because of minor set-backs.
Highly confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know that failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a detective, searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work. After modifying their plan, they try again (but better this time).
- They don’t require anyone’s permission to act.
Highly confident people take action without hesitation. Every day, they remind themselves, “If not me, who?”
- They don’t limit themselves to a small toolbox.
Highly confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use of any and all weapons that are at their disposal, relentlessly testing the effectiveness of every approach, until they identify the strategies that offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.
Okay, I’m no Dale Carnegie, but I’m not walking into the Fraser River with rocks in my pockets, either. But here’s what I’m going to watch for: I tend to need a lot of reassurance (feel free to give it, anytime now. Really.) and I hate inconvenient truths. They’re so darn… inconvenient.
How about you? What are your trouble spots?
Author & article source: Daniel Wallen | Lifehack
And huge thanks to the wise and confident Paula Altenburg for sending this my way!
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